Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Girls Rule!!
It's a fashion/diet/food blog and I love it. The woman who writes it has lots of clever lines like "What I wore while paying for parking three times" and "what I ate while watching Doubt". It was fun to scroll through her blog and read her posts.
Although I do follow a few blogs written by men (Frugal Dad, The Wisdom Journal), I love my girly bloggers. I've always been a girls girl and it is so fun and inspiring to see the writing of so many cool, interesting, talented, and clever women out there. Another favorite is www.dietgirl.org. She also has another blog called What's New Pussycat which is fun. I really like her blog a lot because not only is she really funny and clever but it is fascinating to see how much weight she has lost. I also enjoy the fact that she married a British guy and hearing about her adjustment to living in a foreign country. Another pretty blog I recently came across is Casey's Musings which has been fun to sort through (another vintage loving gal who has lots of talent AND clothes!) http://blog.caseybrowndesigns.com/
My Friend Oprah had a lovely update yesterday about her Birth Necklace which left me feeling teary- it's a very nice story about friendship. And she posted a very beautiful photo of herself after having given birth- I can guarantee I didn't look that good after any of my births!
Hey Girl Bloggers- you're great!!
Birthday Celebrations
Friday, April 24, 2009
Why I Love England
1- They produce some of the best people on the planet including my husband, my dual citizen daughter, my best friend, my fantastic in-laws, my husbands friends....I've met some really incredible people born and bred in England.
2- The history. I have stood in The Shambles, which is mentioned in the Domesday book and is at least 900 years old. I have had a pint at the Kirkstone Pass Inn which was built in 1496. I have stood on Hadrien's Wall and been to Vindolanda. If you are a history nut like me, England is one of the most inspiring places to be. I stand at Stonehenge and feel peace and contentment.
3- The Pageantry. Watch the changing of the guards, or the changing of the horse guards and tell me you don't get goose bumps. I don't believe you. No one does a royal wedding or funeral better than the English.
4- The food. Fish and Chips. Parsnip croquettes. Bacon butty. Cheese and onion pasty. I can guarantee you the best meal you'll ever eat is lasagna from any pub in England. They don't do it in layers like we do- it's one layer of minced meat, one layer of pasta, covered with a cheesy bechamel sauce. Heaven. Sticky Toffee Pudding. Here's another thing to love about English food. Cheese is a dessert. Or a full meal. You gotta love a country that can turn cheese into either option. And these are people who can't be arsed with whipping their cream. Oh no- they prefer to just pour it straight onto their dessert. Have you ever had a gooey, warm sticky toffee pudding covered with thick fresh cream? Please- before you die- have it just the once. You will love it. I promise.
5- Gardens. You can go pretty much anywhere in England and find a garden to roam about in. It's one of my favorite things to do.
6- The National Trust and English Heritage. No paving over historical landmarks in favor of another Walgreens or Starbucks for these people. They actually care about, preserve, and protect their national historical treasures. And we get to be the beneficiaries of that by visiting any number of NT or EH sites located around the country. I don't remember the exact figure but it is something like 60% of British people belong to either the NT or EH. When we lived in England, we belonged to the NT.
7- Spring Watch (Autumn Watch). My husband and I are amateur bird watchers. We love all aspects of the natural world, but particularly the birds and little animals. So a show like Spring Watch and it's autumn cousin Autumn Watch are right up our alley. We first watched it when living in England but since moving back to the US we watch it via UK Nova. I love a country where the night badger watch camera showing on an obscure BBC channel in the middle of the night has one of the largest audiences all year long.
8- TV. There's a reason why some of the best US shows on tv are actually re-worked British shows. This is a country that has given us The Office, BlackAdder, Fawlty Towers, The Royal Family, Gavin and Stacy, Phoenix Nights, Dad's Army, Max and Paddy's Road To Nowhere, Top Gear, Red Dwarf, etc etc etc.
9. Jane Austen
10. Beer Gardens. I love the fact that in nearly any town, village, or city in England, you will find at least one, more like 2 or more, pub with an attached beer garden. A beer garden is a grassy plot of land attached to the pub with picnic tables and more often than not a swing set and climbing frame for the kids. There is nothing nicer than sitting in the beer garden on a nice day supping a pint and eating a plate of chips.
11. The White Cliffs of Dover. If you have seen them, you know what I am about to write is true. If you haven't seen them, then let me just say you will get goosebumps and start singing out loud "there'll be blue birds over...the white cliffs of Dover....."
12. Next, Monsoon, Boden, Accessorize......the high street shopping is lots of fun in England.
13. Markets. Any town anywhere in England will either have a market or be near to a market. A market is a huge collection of outdoor (sometimes you do get an indoor market) vendors selling everything from meat to cheese to fresh produce to clothing to lighters ("Six for a pound- Your GASLIGHTERS"- my favorite vendor in Lancaster, Lancashire). Going to the market is a really fun day out.
14. Car Boot Sales. You know how sometimes on a Saturday in the US you'll get the paper and you'll mark up all the garage sales in your area, then you'll plan your route to drive to each one. By the time you get to the third you're sort of sick of driving everywhere and when you try to park at each garage sale, you wind up parking on the road a block down? Well, the English have brilliantly solved this problem by having car boot sales. You take a field, then everyone shows up with all the stuff they want to get rid of. You park up once then walk up and down the rows of parked cars looking at everyone else's stuff and buying the things you want. We sold most of the stuff we weren't taking with us when we moved back at our local car boot sale.
15. Guy Fawkes Night, otherwise known as Bonfire Night. November 5th they celebrate Guy Fawkes trying to blow up parliament by building effigys and burning them on huge bonfires then having a fireworks show. You've never seen fireworks anywhere on any fourth of July anywhere in the US that can rival any small town in England's Bonfire Night fireworks. Period.
16. Newspapers. Want a fun few hours? Pick up a selection of English newspapers. Find a beer garden. Order a pint. Now sit and read. And giggle. and smirk. English newspapers are rude, vulger, funny, inspiring, truthful and ludicrous. I love nothing more than spending a few hours reading The Telegraph, The Sun, The Daily Mail, and The Guardian.
17. Continuing on a theme- magazines are great as well. You haven't lived til you have read an OK magazine cover to cover.
18. Accents. Most people in England don't sound like Hugh Grant in Four Weddings and a Funeral. There are so many different accents and dialects located around the country it's pretty fun to listen to them speak. I have to defer to my husband on this one, but apparently if you put three people in a room and only told them they were all from northwest England, they could immediately realize that one was from Chorley, one was from Manchester, and one was from Burnley just by accent alone.
19. Beer. They have the best beer, bar none, in England.
20. Cheese. I don't want to hear any arguments about French cheese. British cheese beats any cheese anywhere hands down.
21. Blackpool. Blackpool Illuminations. Chips with curry sauce eaten stood up on the street of Blackpool with the beach across the street, the sea breeze hitting you in the face. You walk further on and for the heck of it you get a warm bag of donuts. Proceed to eat said bag, let husband have last donut so you can lick your finger and eat all the sugar on the bottom. Fight with husband in the street over bits of sugar at bottom of bag. Head to the fair ground. Try to ignore strip club signs while laughing over the ridiculous get ups of Hen and Stag nights.
22. Coronation Street
23. Take That
24. Boots nose bleed plugs (Mary has serious nose bleed issues)
25. Footie songs
26. Black cabs with the doors that open out backwards
27. the local butcher
28. Feeding the ducks along the canal in Carnforth
29. The fact that very few tv presenters in the UK are below size 10. Nothing better than flipping on the tube and seeing Fern stood there. Makes you feel good about yourself instead of pissed off that you ate those donuts at Blackpool.
30. Builder's brew.
31. British men. Lovely.
I could probably go on and on all day like this but I will end this by stating my #1 favorite thing about England: the fields and fields of sheep. 3 miles from the center of London? Fields of sheep. Driving along the M1? Fields of sheep. Crossing the border into Scotland? Fields of sheep. Literally very few places in the UK where you won't see fields of sheep. Bliss.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
The Total Money Makeover By Dave Ramsey
The next thing he discusses is savings for retirement and for your child's college. Both are things Russ and I want to do. Russ will receive a small pension from the Royal Air Force for his time spent in the military. But that won't be enough. I do not agree with Dave Ramsey's concept of putting money into mutual funds and the stock market. We've all seen in the last 8 months how people's retirement funds have been totally obliterated. I have no confidence in a 401 (k). Russ and I were both making contributions which we stopped doing when the stock market started to tank. We have both seen our 401 (k)'s go downhill. Mine is now worth $200. I think Russ's is worth something similar. All that time and money wasted. I am going to have to do more research into safer investing. We may not become paper millionaires, but at least our money will be safe. I'm thinking of stuff like t-bills and savings bonds and cd's. This is something we plan to start doing soon, slowly. Once Alice is in school and I am working, the plan is to continue living on one salary, and the other salary will be split 75% to our retirement and 25% to Alice's schooling. Mary's dad is paying for her schooling and has already been saving for years. I have also asked the grandparents to stop buying lots of little things (the amount of gifts the kids get on a regular basis is crazy) and start contributing to a college fund instead. When Alice is ready for school, if need be, my entire salary will go towards her education. If need be, we'll sell our house to fund her education. The one thing we will not do is allow her to take out student loans. She will need to spend 2 years in community college to do her core work, then can transfer to a specialized school for the rest. If she fails one class, she's done and she will need to get a job. She will grow up knowing this. I have very harsh thoughts for parents who allow their children to take on that kind of substantial debt at such a young age. I was lucky to not get saddled with that kind of debt and I won't allow my children to be either.
All in all I think Dave Ramsey has a lot of good information. I could do without all the God stuff written throughout (sorry but God isn't "looking out" for your finances- He's too busy dealing with war and famine and stuff), but there are two things that really stuck out to me. The first was a quote by Albert Einstein that says "Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocre minds" in reference to people being frugal who get grief from their "unfrugal" friends and family members. I truly believe this to be true. The other was something along the lines of why do we "want to buy stuff we don't want with money we don't have to impress people we don't like." That really hit the nail on the head for me! Also, don't try to keep up with the Jones'- the Jones' are broke!
Over Budget!
I tried to stay on top of the money situation, but I also made the mistake of going to Target. I really want a blender. Russ wants a new four cup programmable coffee pot. Both items are basics we've never bought before that we would use and get our money's worth. So I think we'll buy them. I can see the start of the Compact getting further and further away. I was good last night in that I went on Sephora online and proceeded to put $82 worth of stuff into my basket, got all the way to the credit card entry area and came to my senses and turned it off. I struggle with what's being cheap, and what's being frugal? If I buy items for myself that make me feel good about myself ie. Touche Eclat which I love, from Sephora am I being a spend thrift? Or if I don't buy them should I be pleased that I am so frugal, or am I just not only cheap but spotty and dark circled as well? This is why the frugal life has appealed to me, but I can't seem to get on board full with it.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Confessions of a Hypocrite
In all this talk about frugality, joining The Compact, and saving money there is one thing I haven't mentioned. I love clothes. Having said that, I am not a hip and trendy person. The photo at left shows me in my absolute most fashionable outfit, which is kind of sad because I somehow doubt it's even fashionable. I'm sure neither Kasmira or Emily Martin would ever be caught dead in this outfit! There are several fashion blogs that I read regularly. By regularly I mean every day. Sometimes twice a day if I check in the morning and there is no update, I check again later in the afternoon. These include the following: http://liebemarlene.blogspot.com/, workwithwhatyouvegot.blogspot.com/, whatiwore2day.blogspot.com/, and the all time most fantastic fashion blog ever, the unequaled www.theblackapple.typepad.com/somegirlswander/.
None of these women dress anything like me. None of these women dress like one another, though I suppose you could say liebemarlene and Some Girls Wander have a similar vibe. I am not fashionable. I could never BE fashionable. It goes against the grain of who I am to even want to be fashionable. So why am I so obsessed that it's a rare day that goes by where I don't check these sites? I don't know. It's the hypocrite in me. The part of me that WANTS to wear lovely clothes and look beautiful and have all that lovely, girly stuff. Even as I write that, I know I could never, ever live that fashion lifestyle. First of all I have always wondered where Kasmira and Emily Martin STORE all those clothes. I know liebemarlene has an online shop where most of her stuff winds up. And the whole point of Erin's Work With What You've Got is to...work with what you've got. She puts together some really cool outfits but other than her massive handbag collection, I don't think she has loads and loads of clothes. I sometimes wonder how Emily even keeps track of her clothes. She writes on her outfits not only where they came from (lots of Anthropologie stuff- which I can't see my frugal self ever really buying from......I have an anxiety attack when I order from Boden or Gap on rare occasions) but what YEAR she bought them. How does she keep track? It seems like so much stuff between the skirts and the socks and the shoes and the underlayers and the blouses, and the separate collars. How big ARE her closets? Does she ever feel overwhelmed? Does she ever consider "decluttering"? Does she ever think "right, I think I have quite enough Anthro cardigans"? I get stressed just thinking of all the stuff she has to take care of and keep track of. It would actually be quite interested to follow a frugal fashionista blog- I haven't come across one yet, but I'll keep looking.